The grass is always greener on the other side Syndrome

That is what it is. A syndrome (- noun 1 a group of symptoms which consistently occur together. 2 a characteristic combinations of opinions, emotions, or behaviour. ORIGIN Greek sundromē, from dramein ‘to run’. How true can that be? ……… *psch* yeah, very true indeed.

It usually occurs in a group. Apparently it happened mostly in the masculine gender of the human race. I wonder why…? It seems like, if one of them in the group was infected, it intent to ‘consistently occur together’. In whatever reasons, ‘grass is always greener on the other side’ for the change to that new job, move to a new city, new place and replacing of new things (eg. furniture, cars, mobile phones and even partners).

It is a behaviour alright. Instead of trying harder, being satisfied, repair, working things out… it was better dramein, to run! The easiest way out of a complication, which in the first place caused by avoiding or ignoring the problem.

When I reread what I’ve just wrote here. It sounds like I’m attacking one gender. Well, I did state the word ‘mostly’ not ‘all’. The truth, in this time and century, there are some of the feminine gender would do the same thing too. When the going gets tough, they split! Reasons: they are the weaker gender and they need someone stronger to be there for them, to take care of them and to support them. Ok for this one I have to give an example. Scenario: Husband just lost his high paying job and is willing to work hard but they have to sacrifice the luxuries that they used to have. Bitchy wife, walks out the door, reasons being, she can’t live without some things that she’s used to (eg. spa, hairdresser, the weekends brunch at the private country club, exotic holidays, etc…). Apparently she already has a replacement, on the side for just in case.

Ok! Both genders are the same! My point is. Human beings will never be satisfied with what they have. The belief of better things to be found elsewhere sometimes does not make you happier. It happened to a wonderful fantastic friend of mine, I am truly proud and honored, to have such a friend. She had a fantastic job, good life and free to do as she pleases. Still she wants that dream job. In the end she got it. She’s in, she got her dream job! Things were going as planned! YEAY!!!!… We lost contact because she was really very busy. Today, after nearly a year, we got in touch with each other again. She told me she’s not happy... My heart went to her. After much thought, I asked her, ‘what were you doing last time that made you happy? Get me? Maybe you can do it again or look for something similar.’ She have not replied to me yet.

You can have that change and sometimes the ‘grass is greener’ and better. Just make sure that you investigate, research and ‘sleep on it’ before deciding the ultimatum. There will be no one to blame but your self when things go wrong or not the way you expected it to.

Appreciate and cherish what you have. Sure, you can have more or better things but remember some things won't lead to happiness or a clear conscience.